V.H., Female, 20something, Married, Tennessee
Curious about others experiences in dating and relationships, I posted some questions out on Facebook in early September 2017 to collect stories from a wide range of hearts and experiences in love. This is one of many:
+ If you're coupled, how did you meet?
My husband and I knew of each other from high school, however we did not really converse until we connected on Facebook.
+ What are your fears & concerns about dating and relationshipping?
The main concern I am currently facing regarding my marriage is that my relationship with my husband will never mature and grow. I fear that we will be stuck in this rut we are in for the rest of our lives with no escape.
+ Are you happy in your current status? Why or why not?
No, I am not happy with my marriage. I refuse to believe that this is what marriage is about. My marriage in the present feels like we are just going through the motions. There is no intimacy, there is no connection, no communication, no happiness ... nothing that a marriage needs to thrive and survive.
+ Do you view marriage as a destination or a journey?
I personally view marriage as a journey. It's not about where you're going it's how you get there. The things you experience together along the way will only make you stronger and grow and improve your relationship.
+ If married, how much work does it take to maintain and happy and loving relationship with your spouse?
Even though our relationship is not at its best - I do know it takes two people who are willing to put in a lot of effort to make it work. Right now I feel like I am the only one trying.
+ If coupled, do you follow traditional gender norms or share responsibilities in a different manner?
I take care of the home, he works full time.
+ If coupled, how long have you known each other, been a couple and married (if applicable)?
My husband and I have been a couple for about 6 years, and married going for 2 years.
+ Do you have couples you know, either personally or from afar, that are your #relationshipgoals?
Yes there are many relationships that I admire - one of them being Thomas & Lauren Akins. Even through the fame, they remain so humble and genuinely in love. They care and respect each other so much and it shows through their actions.
+ Do you believe marriage is still necessary and viable or is it an antiquated institution?
I still believe in marriage. God created it, and it is a wonderful thing. It just takes two dedicated people who are deeply in love to make it work.
+ What do you want from being coupled that you do not feel when single?
I want a forever best friend that will be there for me through the good, bad, and the ugly and choose to love my despite my many flaws. Someone that I can deeply connect to and experience this crazy thing we call life with. Someone that will constantly reassure me how truly beautiful love really is.